It's official! Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes are not only engaged but expecting thier first child together early this spring. I haven't really paid much attention to them throughout the whole ordeal of getting together and planning to tie the knot, because quite frankly I thought it was a publicity stunt. They barely knew each other before getting engaged on top of the Eiffel Tower (how perfect) and constantly put out this image that they were too happy for words and couldn't get enough of each other. In my opinion, if a couple truly is madly in love, they don't need to go prancing around making out in public and jumping around like idiots to prove how in love they are; couples that are genuinely in love just give off a subtle aura to those around them that shows how truly happy they are (Demi and Ashton are a good example). Tom and Katie are just a little much for me - the constant physical contact actually makes me kind of sick. But anyway, I think the most awkward thing about thier new love is the age difference. I am not opposed to age differences by any means because sometimes it can be appropriate for couples who stay classy about it, but I don't feel that Tom and Katie are one of those couples. They are both huge role models (especially Katie) for the younger generations in our society, and dating a man 17 years older for a couple months and then getting engaged to him and soon after (possibly even before) getting pregnant by him, is just sending the wrong message. Some have questioned what her motives are in devoting the rest of her life to an older man, which is usually the case when a young woman marries an older man. I will touch on this a little later - for now I want to share with you a few more celebrity couples with big age gaps.
Married celebrities Michael Douglass (56) and Catherine Zeta Jones (31) have received mass criticism because of thier 25 year age difference. I can accept the age difference in their case. Although it is a huge gap, they carry themselves very well and stay extremely classy despite all the negative things people say about them. The only factors I worry about in this relationship are the children. The couple has two children, ages 5 and 2. When these kids are graduating high school, thier dad is going to be 69 and 72; let alone when they are older and have kids of thier own - who's to say he's even going to live that long? It's really sad when you think about it that way. Regardless of all of this, a man in his 60's, no matter who he is, has the energy level that a young dad has, which will strongly deter him from having a close bond with his children as they grow and continue being more and more active.
An even huger age gap is that between Billy Joel and Kate Lee - he is 55, she is 23 - a 32 year age difference. This, I think, is pushing it. First of all, hes MORE than twice her age, second of all, she is pretty much OUR age and dating someone older than most of our parents, and worst of all, his daugher
Alexa Ray is almost 19 years old! Personally, I would be mortified if I were him. But it seems as though they are fine with everything and moving on with their lives just like any couple would. Rod Stewart sings "Forever Young," and that's what he seems to look for in companions. The 60-year-old and his estranged wife, Rachel Hunter, 35, have yet to finalize a divorce. Meanwhile, his new fiancee, Penny Lancaster, 34, is pregnant. Pretty gross if you ask me. While I'm showing my wits and songs as puns, I might as well mention Paul McCartney. He sang, "Will you still need me, will you still feed me, when I'm 64?" Well, he's getting there! The singer turned 63 in July, and he and second wife, Heather Mills, 37, have a daughter, who turns 2 in October. Again, I am sad for this little girl. There is a good chance she not even get to be escorted down the aisle at her own wedding by her father, and forget about her children ever really getting to know thier grandpa.
When a younger woman marries an older man, many question whether it is for money, security, or alternate reasons other than love. But what about when a younger man marries an older woman? This is actually more common in celebrity marriages than you would think. Mary Tyler Moore, Elizabeth Taylor, Susan Sarandon, Goldie Hawn, Roseanne, and Demi Moore have all chosen younger men as their love interests. It is commonly speculated that younger men end up with older women because they are finally looking for a mother figure that they either never had or found inadequate growing up. I'm not so sure this has anything at all to do with it, it sounds too much like the Oedipus complex to me, which really creeps me out. The main couple of this sort that has been in the news, as you know, is Ashton and Demi. The couple, who is 15 years apart in age, recenly wed in a private ceremony. I absolutly love both of them and totally support them in getting married. They are so adorable together and they seem so in love and so happy. In this situation, I don't worry about her children because the kids are old enough to understand what is going on and they love Ashton to death. However, Demi and Ashton have both said in interviews that they want kids. For Demi, who is 42, the biological clock is ticking very slow, if it hasn't stopped ticking all together. It has actually been proven dangerous and impairing for women over 35 to have children. I think the couple should take this into account when deciding whether to actually have biological children. The 58-year-old Susan Sarandon married Tim Robbins, who is 12 years younger than her and they have two sons. There has not been a huge amount of publicity about this couple although they are somewhat far apart, probably because they are both older in general - she is 58 and he is 46. When couples get to those ages it doesn't seem to matter as much for some reason, I guess that's just the way our society works. 49-year-old Geena Davis and her fourth
husband, Dr. Reeza Jarrahy, a 34-year-old neurosurgeon, married in a 2001 wedding, and so far so good. Maybe a younger man really was what she needed to truly settle down. One last couple I want to talk about is another one of my favorite couples - Cameron Diaz (33) and Justin Timberlake (24). Again, this is not a huge age gap and I see nothing wrong with it but some have said that she is much more mature than the boy band/R&B/Pop singer and that it will never last. I disagree.
I look forward to hearing what you think about this topic and these couples! Have a super week!